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A Valentine's Day Love Story - Steak, Sex & Intimacy - By Booty Parlor Founder Dana B. Myers

Valentine’s Day is here and it’s no surprise… it’s one of my favorite holidays.

Now, it wasn’t always this way. I used to HATE Valentine’s Day and write it off as a silly, “Hallmark” holiday.I suppose that was before I met my husband Charlie. Now, it feels like a very intimate holiday. A time to really reflect upon love – not just romantic love, but all the kinds of love in my life.

But I’m not going to talk about the intense, soul-drenching love I have for my two kids, or my mom, or my treasured girlfriends, or even myself.

Instead, I’m going to tell you about my love for steak.

What’s steak got to do with Valentine’s Day? I’ll tell you. It goes back to the first V-Day I ever had with Charlie. We’d been dating for a few months. We were in love and I already knew we’d be together forever — it was thrilling. I walked into his apartment and the whole place smelled of sizzling steak. Through a slightly smoky haze, I saw him buzzing around the kitchen.

A sexy British man making me sizzling steak. OMG. OH YES. It was a revelation.

And when we sat down, each bite satisfied a very deep craving – for lust and sex and love. For a man who could feed me, and in doing so, feed my desire for him.

So yeah – I discovered that the way to my heart (and my libido) is a beautifully prepared piece of meat. It’s true. It’s a little weird. But it makes me feel sexual, sensual, lusty and libidinous. Maybe I was a cave woman in another life?

The truth is, I didn’t know this about myself until Charlie made that steak.  And now, it’s a running joke in our house. A chicken roasting in the oven? Guaranteed to get me feeling frisky. A leg of lamb on a spit? Don’t even get me started. And that’s before he starts to carve it. His cooking brings out the animal in me. He likes that “weird” part of me, and in return, it turns him on.

What’s the point of me telling you this story?

Well… on a holiday where there’s such a high value placed on dinners, diamonds and expensive gifts, I suggest you focus instead on the unique intimate connections you share with your spouse. The quirky, naughty and nuanced curves of your desires and turn-ons.  The “thing” that only the two of you share.  The thing that turns you into an animal.

Talk about it, and then go there again. There’s a reason you were drawn together, so remember it. And if you feel it’s faded too far out of reach, never fear. Intimacy loves to be rekindled – it practically begs for it. Use Valentine’s Day as your excuse to spark it up again.

This year, I’ll be taking mine medium-rare!

XOXO,

DanaDana B. Myers

PS – If you’re in NYC and you’re nterested in rediscovering your enthusiasm for sex, love and lust, then join me at the Mommy Mojo Makeover workshop, starting February 27th! www.mommymojomakeover.eventbrite.com

Transform Negatives into Sexy Positives

Hi BP Babes,

I’m now four weeks in with Baby No. 2 and each day is getting a little bit easier for me. Ok, sometimes, it feels a little bit harder!? Either way, it’s been both an empowering and a challenging experience. In the last week, there’ve been moments where I’ve become hard on myself; in particular, I’ve become a bit down on my body. I don’t yet have the green light to return to my exercise routine, and I’ve been freely over-indulging in sweet treats. I’m not exactly sure what to wear in these early post-partum days and well, it just all feels a bit mushy – physically and emotionally. It got me thinking back another time in my life where I was hard on myself, and I want to share the story with you.

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This bracelet reminds me to love my body!

Back in 2001, I was a single girl living in NYC. I was exhausted working 3 jobs, and had been dumped by my boyfriend right before the holidays. It was my quarter-life crisis moment and I started to turn against my body. While I was at a normal, healthy weight and had always been body-confident, I found I’d become fixated on my thighs. I stopped seeing myself in a beautiful way. I remember standing in front of the mirror in my undies and hearing my inner voice literally attacking my thighs, saying, You’re so round! Why can’t you be smaller? Why are you so big? I was even grabbing my outer thigh with my hand and wondering what my leg would look like if I had liposuction. It was as if the anxiety and uncertainty I was feeling about life was narrowing itself in on a body part. And that negative voice kept getting louder.

All of the sudden, I realized what I was doing to myself and it seemed crazy! Suddenly, the confident self-loving Dana that I’d known my whole life was fed up. I marched myself into the bathroom and stood in front of the mirror. I looked deep into my own eyes and started saying out loud, You’re okay. You’re beautiful. I love you. Stop this self-destructive nonsense. You love yourself WAY more than this!

It was a breakthrough moment. No longer would I allow myself to get stuck in that nasty repetitive loop of Negative Body Banter – the self-destructive mental chatter I’d been inflicting upon myself and my thighs. From that day forward, I began saying affirmations of self-love. I was talking to myself the way I’d talk to my best friend in crisis. Then, I started having more fun with the process, incorporating grand dramatic affirmations like, Thighs, you are terribly gorgeous. I love how juicy you are. Any man would be lucky to catch a even a glance of you!

You might think that sounds ridiculous, and it may have even felt that way at first. But it was a major awakening for me. It was self-care in its purest form and it’s grown into something far beyond the acute fix I needed that day and into such a beautiful relationship that I have with myself.

So, when I noticed that negative voice rise up again the other day, I went right back to what I know. I put myself back in front of the mirror, stopped ragging on my “post-natal puffiness” and refocused on what is feeling sexy and beautiful right now. My eyes, how they sparkle. My bust, so plump and glowy. My hair, damn, it’s magnificent! My belly, magical to have created the most amazing baby! And honestly, once I get into that self-lovin’ groove, I can go on and on about myself. But I won’t bore you with my list ;)

Instead, I challenge you to transform the negative messages you send yourself into more loving ones. Think of a body part you’ve been down on, or a perceived flaw you repeatedly fixate upon and counteract it with a positive, sexy self-love saying. Hating your arms? Flip the script and dig deep to find something sexy about them. Think your butt is fat? Retrain your brain to say something amazing about its seductive shape. We may not be able to banish the negative body banter from our lives completely, but can we can quickly nip it in the bud when it shows up. Life’s too short and sweet to waste time tearing ourselves down, right? Let’s support each other and take ownership in building our sexy self-confidence up instead!

With loads of love & affection,

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Holiday Gift Guide #1 – Gift Yourself

Dana MyersIt’s December, and it’s my favorite month, for so many reasons. I bundle up in chunky scarves and drink hot cocoa like it’s nectar of the Gods. I smile & get teary-eyed listening to X-Mas music on the radio (I mean, Do they know it’s Christmastime at home?). I get to fire up the Chanukah candles and have a cozy Christmas all within the span of a few weeks. Kisses, wishes and champagne close out the month as we welcome the New Year, and all the new possibilities it holds.  Oh, and one other thing. December is my BIRTHDAY MONTH!!

Now, I know this is the season of giving to others, but I do a considerable amount of gifting myself around this time of year.  I can’t ignore the fact that’s it’s my birthday just because it’s X-Mas, right? I try not to go overboard, but I do treat myself to some prezzies to ceIebrate the end of one year and the onset of another in my life — older, wiser, happier, sexier and more fabulous.

So, in honor of my “gift yourself” tradition, this first gift guide is all about YOU. These are the little Booty Parlor treats I recommend to brighten your sexy self-confidence and help you shine during the season. And I know if you love ‘em, your best girlfriends will be just as thrilled when they unwrap theirs.

Here’s my Top 5 Gifts to Give Yourself (and your Best Friends~)

Naughty Bubbles Bubble Bath ($22) Sometimes the only place a girl can go to escape the hustle & bustle of the season is the bath tub. Do. Not. Disturb. Right? The black tuberose scent will blow your mind, and the luscious bubbles will float you away to a very happy place.

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Don’t Stop Massage Candle ($32): If you love candles, and you love massages, and you love the idea of experiencing the classic “hot wax” fantasy without any actual pain, this is the gift for you. The wax melts into a warm, nourishing massage oil that you can drizzle onto skin – lighting up your senses and giving you a foreplay story to write about in your diary.  

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The Official Booty Parlor Mojo Makeover: 4 Weeks to a Sexier You ($14.99)  I truly believe this is the gift that keeps on giving.  The Mojo Makeover experience will change the way you feel about yourself and infuse your daily life with a massive dose of SEXINESS! Give one to your bestie and support one another through the process. You’ll boost your sexy self-confidence and discover what’s uniquely sexy about each of YOU. It’s the perfect way to end the year and ring in the new one…

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Flirty Little Favorites ($36) Let the power-pampering begin! This trio of seductive beauty boosters is designed to trigger instant sexiness and inspire fearless flirtation. Sounds about right for all those upcoming holiday parties, yes?! All three products — the Perfume Oil, Pink Caviar Sugar Scrub, and Body Butter — are formulated with our proprietary pheromone blend to inspire body-to-body chemistry and get you all the attention. Plus, this one’s pretty in it’s giftable box, even your mother will love this as a gift (she wants to be sexy too, you know!)

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Kissaholic Aphrodisiac Plumping Lip Gloss ($16)  Position yourself uber-close to the mistletoe and get ready for a make out marathon. This super-glossy-but-never-sticky formula comes in 6 amazing shades, but I recommend trying Throb (sparkling red) or Tremble (sparking pink) since they’re so festive. The aphrodisiac blend is designed to inspire desire… but be careful, someone might catch you kissing S.C.!

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Ok, happy shopping (for yourself!) and let me know if you have any questions in the comments below!

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Get Your Mental Mojo Moving!

Dana MyersAs a new mama, I find myself gabbing with other moms about all sorts of “new mommy” topics — sleeping, breastfeeding, teething, sleeping (again), and of course, sex.  Or really, the lack of sex.  It seems that the curse of new mommyhood is a non-existent libido; as if the sexual spark that gets you pregnant in the first place burrows away into some deep, dark hibernation.

One mama said to me, “I just can’t even think about sex.”  Of course, therein lies the problem! Once you stop thinking about sex, it fades out of your life pretty quickly. Now, that’s not breaking news, but it is true. When you stop remembering what sex — and feeling sexy– can do for you, you lose the motivation to make it an integral part of your life.  Whether it’s the life-altering presence of a new baby, the stresses of a high-profile job, a to-do list that’s toppling over, or you’re just stuck in a rut with your lover, it can be challenging to keep the desire alive.  I totally get it. But I’m here to tell you that if you can get sex back on your brain, you’ll have it back in your bedroom in no time.  And I know you’ll feel happier and more satisfied when you do.  I know I do!  So, here’s a couple of quick ideas to get your mental mojo moving again…

  1. Look for visual and mental stimulation every day. There are seductive elements in so many places, you just need to keep your eyes open for them and embrace the opportunities they present. When I hit up the LA Farmer’s Market, the spectacularly phallic carrots and other natural wonders make me giggle and think naughty thoughts.  Staying on the subject of food, I ate a chocolate pot de creme yesterday, and the flavors & texture were so rich that I couldn’t help but feel sensual.  It might be the way a flower opens, or that you catch a scent that reminds you of your hottest one-night-stand. Whatever it is, make it a point to jot down the things you see, hear, smell and feel that please you and make you a little lusty.  Use a mini notebook or an App on your phone and then, a couple times a week, check back and see what you wrote. It’ll remind you of what revs your motor…
  2. Bring out the fantasy lingerie. When I say “fantasy,” I really mean costumes. Naughty nurse. Jail bird. Fluffy bunny. Sexy Mobster. Dressing up in a sexy costume is an instant libido booster.  For most, it means instant sex-on-the-brain because, if it’s not Halloween, why else would you be wearing it except for a sexy bedroom session? It makes you feel a little silly and naughty all at once, and prompts you to think, “Ok, what am I going to do now that I’m in this thing?” Not only will you look foxy, but it’ll be easy to lose yourself in a new role, taking you out of the boredom/stresses of your daily life. It’s an experiment in newness and it will bring on the creativity and a sense of play.
  3. Stock a seductive book. Whether it’s a oversized book of provocative photography or an anthology of sexy stories, make room for a little extra stimulation that’ll move your mind onto something sexier than baby bottles or your grocery list.  At the end of a long day, it might seem easier to thumb through US Weekly, but seeing what Lindsey wore to court won’t deliver you the motivation you need to get your mojo moving.  Reading a short story — be it romantic or kinky — will ignite your imagination and spark up your desire.  Then, it’s up to you to act on the inspiration!

Whether you’re a new mommy, a high-powered business woman, or you’ve just grown complacent in your relationship, I want you to remember how important “sexy” is in your life.  Use these little tips to bring sexy back to your brain, and work to keep it alive.  Because when you’re living as the sexiest, most fabulous and vibrant version of you — with confidence, self-love, and an active pursuit of the sexy satisfaction you deserve — all of your life’s other endeavors will benefit! 

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Mojo Makeover Book: How it started…and how I started!

describe the imageThe Mojo Makeover book goes on sale today! (Check out my video message from Times Square.) Once you get it, I want you to be in close touch with me, tell me how it’s going—give a shout out for all your “yes!” moments. Clue me in! 

I’ll share what’s happening with me, too. I’m going to kick things off by telling you where the Mojo Makeover book came from. 

It began with…my mom.

Yes, my mom! Besides being gorgeous, charismatic and irresistible, my mom was a makeup artist. She had the ability to transform women’s lives through her makeovers. She’d illuminate their inner sirens, and they’d look at themselves in an entirely different way than when they were finished. Barbara coached them, right there in her chair. She asked questions and got the women to talk about themselves…she was their Vault. When they walked out of the salon, they were lit up from the inside. They exuded sexy self-confidence!

I worked at the beauty salon where my mom did makeup. Watching her, I learned to believe in the beauty and power that exists in every woman. I came to understand that with a little girlfriend-to-girlfriend chat, some practical instruction, and yes, a little lipgloss, you could help any woman discover her unique beauty, feel more alive and boost her inner confidence.

From Beauty Shop to Booty Parlor

In 2004, I started Booty Parlor, a brand of beauty products and sexy bedroom accessories created specifically to boost women’s sexy self-confidence. Every piece offers a way for women to bring their inner vixen out to play. So creating this brand was a natural evolution for me. I modeled it on the close-knit, girly vibe of a beauty shop, where all inhibitions could be left at the door. I wanted women to forget boundaries and feel comfortable asking personal questions. I knew I was right, and I knew women would love it, and they did!

Over the next several years, I educated thousands of women on sex and sexy products, and along the way, I created a program to lead women through their own sexy revolutions….I called it The Mojo Makeover. Its purpose was—and still is—to get women more in tune with their sexy selves. I want everyone to have that blissed-out feeling like the ladies at the beauty shop, and to carry it with them into all parts of their lives.

I’m definitely my own woman, but I have Barbara’s desire to groom women’s inner spark—to set them free to enjoy their curves, their sexiness, their lives. I can’t wait to bring that to all of you and I can’t wait to hear what you think about the book!

Leave me a note here, or FB me! 

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Let’s Talk About Mojo!

describe the imageThe Booty Parlor Mojo Makeover: Four Weeks to a Sexier You is out soon. Really soon. Like January 25th soon! So in honor of our founder (and book author) Dana B. Myers, and to help spread the Mojo magic around, let’s have a quick Q&A-style warm up!

What’s Mojo? Mojo is your sexy spark. It’s that glow that comes from within, your lust for life. Mojo is more than just confidence. It’s sexy self-confidence, your ability to know, embrace and love your body—and to let the world know it! 

Why work on your Mojo? When your Mojo is fired up, you exude sexy self confidence. Others feel that and respond in kind, adding even more gas to your Mojo tank.

Will fixing my Mojo feel…right? There’s no ‘fixing’ going on, that’s so important to know! The Mojo Makeover isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about highlighting everything that you already are, drawing on your passions, your personality, your past experiences, current preferences and relationships. It brings all the fabulous things about you up to the surface—where they should be.

Can you jump start your Mojo? For sure! Try admiring yourself. (Really!) Dance in the mirror wearing something skimpy. Get into the mix and flirt a little, and soak up the positive reaction. Wear something that shows off your curves and enjoy the attention. You see? It’s not hard. Here’s another one: In the shower, take time to caress and worship your soft skin, and high-five your juicy curves. Do it while you wash with a decadent bath gel or bubble bath (it can double as a body wash, you know). Do the same by applying a rich body cream (and stop saving it for special nights, use it every day!). Your skin will be touchable…sexy! Try Booty Parlor Naughty Bubbles Bubble Bath. It leaves a luminous glow on skin. And follow with Booty Parlor Flirty Little Secret Luminizing Body Butter, a luxe cream with a seductive scent that’s infused with pheromones, which help to subtly inspire sexy-self confidence, flirtation, and attention from those around you.

See? It’s easy. Got some Mojo moves of your own? Share them here—hit the comments!

Subtle ways to add glow—and grab attention!

168749 490890858122 6203818122 6342714 7447636 s resized 600The Golden Globes are coming soon—this Sunday!—and there will be tons of glamour and glitz and gorgeous body skin on display. Ready to grab the spotlight for your fabulous self? Amp up your sexy self-confidence with a little well-placed shimmer and shine!

1. Pamper yourself with a body scrub. Use it from neck-to-toe. The reason? Besides making skin touchable and soft, when skin’s surface is smooth, it reflects more light and looks radiant. Try Booty Parlor Flirty Little Secret Pink Caviar Scrub. Its raspberry-lemon sorbet scent makes you smell delicious.

2. Dust on some body shimmer. Place it where your skin gets dewy. Think: along your collarbone, your décolletage, and biceps, and along each shinbone. Try Booty Parlor Dust Up Body Shimmer. The buildable shimmer can be worn like a whisper or boldly depending on your mood (and they taste yummy!).  

3. Double up your lip colors. Apply a deep color lipgloss, then dab another lighter shade overtop, onto to the center of your upper and lower lips. Try Booty Parlor Kissaholic Lip Gloss in Swoon, a provocative plum, and top with Tremble, a sheer light pink. The lighter hue will draw attention to the lushest parts of your lips—seduce away!

Ok Booty Parlor babes…we showed you ours, now you show us yours! How will you get your sexy look on this weekend, ‘Globe style? Smoky eyes? A hot and bothered cheek flush? A new pushup bra? Dish!

A sexy lifestyle expert must blog!

Lifestyle Expert, Dana B Myers

Hey everyone! It’s me, Dana, and I’m blogging! There’s been a lot going on in my world, and the most exciting news is, of course, my son. He’s a yummy baby and I love him desperately.

Like any new mom, I’m working hard to get back into shape, and there are times when I find myself almost going to a place I call negative body banter—it’s the self-confidence-sinking mental chatter many of us inflict upon ourselves when we’re down on our bodies, our beauty, or when we compare ourselves negatively to others. It’s something I’ve worked on in my life, and helping other women identify negative body banter and offering the tools to get past it, is a big mission of mine.

You’re going to hear a lot about this in my blogs. I want to show women how to increase their sexy self confidence…the inner spark we all have that can dim for various reasons, in various times of life.

I’d like to think it’s the 3 a.m. feedings and lack of sleep that’s taking away some of my typically positive resolve, so I’m not overly worried. I’ve always been curvy and I like myself that way, and I know for sure that working out will get me back to where I want to be. There’s nothing like being drenched in sweat…it makes me feel amped up, full of life and totally in tune with my sexy self.

As soon as my little man naps, I’m going to hit up my home gym  (yes I have one, I’m lucky!) and pop in my favorite DVD from The Firm. My new book The Official Booty Parlor Mojo Makeover: Four Weeks to a Sexier You launches January 25, and I’ll be travelling a lot, making store and TV appearances for the book tour. So help me out ladies, I need to get into my favorite clothes, stat! Send me your encouraging words—tell me your favorite DVD workouts right now—I need to stay motivated!

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Dana B Myers