As I’m writing to you, I’m bouncing my newborn in a baby lounger with my right foot and clutching a super-strong cup of coffee with my left hand, all while I contemplate the new phase my life has just entered.
Yes, I’ve now added “parent-of-two” to the long list of roles I play – entrepreneur, wife, author, mama, friend, daughter, do-er and dreamer. Charlie and I delivered a beautiful baby girl just two weeks ago, and boy, has it been an eventful two weeks. We introduced her to our toddler and began to help him adjust, we had a house full of visitors, I transitioned from sleeping all night to sleeping in short bursts, and of course, I went from being in the mix at BP Headquarters to being in full-charge at the Homefront HQ. All at once, it’s been beautiful, hazy, precious and chaotic.
Pretty quickly, my body is returning to its pre-pregnancy state. I can see my feet again, and hey, let’s be honest, I can see my everything again! It feels good to get my body back, to start to feel like myself again, to be able to move and stretch without a watermelon being in the way. My hormones are finding equilibrium and the fortress of pregnancy pillows in between the hubby and I has officially been removed. Now, don’t get me wrong – it’s only been 2 weeks. This mama’s Mojo isn’t flying at full speed again. But, I do have Mojo on my mind. I can feel my inner spark reigniting and a driving desire firing up. I may be packin’ a breast-pump in my purse, but on the flip side, I’m making sure to enjoy this relatively short window of having uber-gorgeous, amped-up “girls.” Unbelievably full nursing cleavage does wonders for my Mojo (and of course, provides my babe with good nutrition!). I’m making an effort to wear my summer wedges and Kissaholic Lip Stain and wash & fluff my ‘fro. My swagger is on its way back and I like it.
As you know, I believe that sex, sexiness and “Mojo’ are just as important as eating, drinking and working out. When I say “Mojo,” what I’m referring to is your feminine sexual spark. It’s your glow that comes from within, your lust for life, love and sex, and all the juicy possibilities that live therein. Mojo is more than just confidence – it’s sexy self-confidence, your ability to know, embrace and love your body; to know what turns you on and satisfies you, and to then be able to communicate it. And yet, more often than not, so many of us are willing to set our “sexy” aside, dismiss its importance, or simply let it drift to the back burner of our busy lives – especially when we’re going through major life changes like a pregnancy or new-baby, a break-up or divorce, or just under the pressures of juggling a busy professional & home life.
Granted, it’s part of my job to keep my Mojo alive, which may be why I’m getting it moving so quickly after having a baby. But it’s not just because I have to, it’s because I want to. When I rub my still-swollen tummy with body butter, I’m reminded of and reconnected to my power as a woman. When I take 5 to plumpify my pucker and swipe on some mascara, I feel like a more pulled-together version of me. I’m simply giving my inner vixen the permission to show up each day– even if I’m overtired from midnight feedings and the toddler/newborn juggling act. My little moments of sexy self-care are my daily confidence-boosting practice. And I truly believe that that confidence is my sexiest asset.
Cultivating a true, honest and unique sexy self-confidence makes you feel lit up inside. When you’re nurturing your Mojo, you’ll find your whole world begins to change in a sexier, more enchanted way. When you consciously love your own body, you’re way more enthusiastic to share it with your partner. And on top of all that, when you’re practicing self-love and the pursuit of satisfaction – all of your life’s other endeavors benefit. I know that when I’m paying my Mojo its due attention, I’m a better mama, a much better wife, and a happier, more creative woman, all-around.
So, no matter what’s going on in your life right now, I wanted to check in and remind you just how important, special, meaningful and magical your Mojo can be to you. Go swipe on some gloss and blow yourself a kiss. Or grab your lover and kiss them. Or put on your favorite skirt and flirt with a stranger on the sidewalk. I’ll be right out there with you. But right now? The baby’s down, so I’m gonna go take a nap