Something I get asked a lot is: how can I attract attention from a guy when I’m out? No question, it can be hard to start a conversation with a cute guy at a bar. “Hi, I’m Dana, and I’d like to get to know you,” is direct, and that alone can be super sexy, but it just isn’t going to roll out of a lot of women’s mouths. Instead, I always recommend using body language. There are lots of options, from a simple smile, to more showy va-va-voom maneuvers—and so anyone can feel confident! Practice these moves in a mirror to see what feels natural, and then go for it!!
Smile! You’re happy to be there, happy to be flirting, happy to be living up to your sexiest self. Happiness is magnetic, and that makes you approachable!
Twirl your hair Playing with your hair can be used to attract your target’s attention. It’s ultra-feminine, and a classic symbol of flirtation. While you twirl your locks, remember to expose your kissable neck, and trace your fingers subtly across your skin. Then send a flirtatious, coy glance his way.
Hold the gaze When you’ve identified someone you want to flirt with, give him a soft, seductive glance, and when he catches you looking, hold it for a few seconds, then look away. Then do it again. He’ll know you’re flirting and you’ll know if he’s interested if he holds your gaze. If he doesn’t, move on.
Show your curves Arching your back naturally pushes your bust forward, and your bum back. Try it just ever…so…slightly when someone is looking at you. It will light up their mind and make you feel super seductive and feminine.
Put your lips into play A little nibble on the corner of your mouth, or even a tiny lick at the corner of your upper lip is a superb visual reference for your flirting object to see. It will get his wheels turning, imagining what other seductive maneuvers your lips can do. Don’t be too blatant or porn-y about this. Just be subtle, subtle, subtle, like you really are licking something off (imagine there’s a dot of cappuccino froth on your lip).
Touch flirt-ily If you’re already engaged in conversation, casual touches on the arm will let the person you’re flirting with know that you’re definitely flirting with him.
Ready to get your flirt on? I know you are. Remember, the key here is subtley—and to have fun! Bring a few BFFs along. Having their support will spark your courage, and generate a lot of tension-busting giggles. Which is perfect because when you’re having fun, you’re relaxed, and acting yourself…and that’s incredibly attractive!