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A Valentine's Day Love Story - Steak, Sex & Intimacy - By Booty Parlor Founder Dana B. Myers

Valentine’s Day is here and it’s no surprise… it’s one of my favorite holidays.

Now, it wasn’t always this way. I used to HATE Valentine’s Day and write it off as a silly, “Hallmark” holiday.I suppose that was before I met my husband Charlie. Now, it feels like a very intimate holiday. A time to really reflect upon love – not just romantic love, but all the kinds of love in my life.

But I’m not going to talk about the intense, soul-drenching love I have for my two kids, or my mom, or my treasured girlfriends, or even myself.

Instead, I’m going to tell you about my love for steak.

What’s steak got to do with Valentine’s Day? I’ll tell you. It goes back to the first V-Day I ever had with Charlie. We’d been dating for a few months. We were in love and I already knew we’d be together forever — it was thrilling. I walked into his apartment and the whole place smelled of sizzling steak. Through a slightly smoky haze, I saw him buzzing around the kitchen.

A sexy British man making me sizzling steak. OMG. OH YES. It was a revelation.

And when we sat down, each bite satisfied a very deep craving – for lust and sex and love. For a man who could feed me, and in doing so, feed my desire for him.

So yeah – I discovered that the way to my heart (and my libido) is a beautifully prepared piece of meat. It’s true. It’s a little weird. But it makes me feel sexual, sensual, lusty and libidinous. Maybe I was a cave woman in another life?

The truth is, I didn’t know this about myself until Charlie made that steak.  And now, it’s a running joke in our house. A chicken roasting in the oven? Guaranteed to get me feeling frisky. A leg of lamb on a spit? Don’t even get me started. And that’s before he starts to carve it. His cooking brings out the animal in me. He likes that “weird” part of me, and in return, it turns him on.

What’s the point of me telling you this story?

Well… on a holiday where there’s such a high value placed on dinners, diamonds and expensive gifts, I suggest you focus instead on the unique intimate connections you share with your spouse. The quirky, naughty and nuanced curves of your desires and turn-ons.  The “thing” that only the two of you share.  The thing that turns you into an animal.

Talk about it, and then go there again. There’s a reason you were drawn together, so remember it. And if you feel it’s faded too far out of reach, never fear. Intimacy loves to be rekindled – it practically begs for it. Use Valentine’s Day as your excuse to spark it up again.

This year, I’ll be taking mine medium-rare!

XOXO,

DanaDana B. Myers

PS – If you’re in NYC and you’re nterested in rediscovering your enthusiasm for sex, love and lust, then join me at the Mommy Mojo Makeover workshop, starting February 27th! www.mommymojomakeover.eventbrite.com

Every Good Valentine’s Day Ends In The Bedroom

"Every Good Valentine's Day Should End In The Bedroom" - Dana B. Myers, Founder of Booty Parlor

“Every Good Valentine’s Day Should End In The Bedroom” – Dana B. Myers, Founder of Booty Parlor

Valentines Day is around the corner. Think champagne, roses, chocolate, a romantic dinner. But let’s be real, where does every hot Valentine’s Day wind up at end of the night? In the bedroom, of course!

But clutter, dirty laundry, electronics and kids’ toys can really put the kibosh on a sexy environment – and stop you before your knickers even hit the floor!

So this Valentine’s Day, clean it up and make room for Cupid!  Here are 4 quick tips to transform your bedroom into a romance-ready boudoir.

1.) Make your space work, clutter, and kid free. Jettison any traces of work; they’re a reminder of your To Do list, and of a stressful week ahead. Also, hide your laptops and ipads, unless you plan on watching something sexy on them! Clear out family photos with anyone who shouldn’t be watching you have sex — send your mother-in-law to the den. Kids toys are a reminder that you’re a great parent, but not a sexy mama!  Stow them in their proper place. It’s all a distraction from putting your Mojo first.

2.) Use light to flatter and seduce. Great soft lighting creates intimacy and warmth. Be sure you can adjust your lamps and overhead fixtures with dimmers or different settings. Chandeliers dripping in crystals are always sexy. Warm light from candles and light-filtering lampshades or amber-tinted sconce covers add enchantment. Even stringing up some delicate twinkly lights can add romance and fantasy.

3.) Set a sultry mood with fragrance. Scent can be such a turn-on in your bedroom. It will transport you away from your workday and into your own personal fantasy. Light candles and burn oils – think vanilla, musk, sandalwood, even a hint of cinnamon, or something with a subtle combination of sweet and spicy. For a fun, frisky treat, try Booty Parlor’s “Don’t Stop Massage Candle”. Massage is a great for slowing down, reconnecting with your lover, relieving stress, and stimulating the senses, instead of rushing into intercourse.

4.) Up the foreplay! Once your bedroom has successfully been transformed, go ahead and take the foreplay challenge.  No woman likes it when her lover goes straight for the bull’s-eye, right? So encourage a slow warm-up. Gently glide your lover’s hand on the outside of your jeans first, then let your partner continue over your panties. Eventually, slide his hands underneath them. At this point, you’ll be getting warm and lusting for his touch on your bare skin.

See? You’re probably feeling sexier and more inspired already. Now, go clean up your room, V-Day is almost here!

XOXO,Dana

Life & Style Magazine Hails Booty Parlor As ‘The Beauty Breakthough!’

Did you catch it?  Check out this awesome article about Booty Parlor in this week’s Life & Style Weekly!

Describing our sexy beauty products as the “Beauty Breakthrough:  Products that Lure Men!”, we can officially now call Life & Style our favorite celebrity weekly! Well, you know what they say about flattery!

The article quotes our founder, Dana B. Myers, oulining the benefits of our pheromone and aphrodisiac ingredients found in our yummy Flirty Little Secret and Kissaholi products.

Check out the article and get some tips into how to become a man magnet yourself!  Just in time for Valentine’s Day, girls . . .

Booty Parlor products featured in Life & Style Magazine

Life & Style Magazine dubs Booty Parlor products a “beauty breakthrough”!

 

 

Transform Negatives into Sexy Positives

Hi BP Babes,

I’m now four weeks in with Baby No. 2 and each day is getting a little bit easier for me. Ok, sometimes, it feels a little bit harder!? Either way, it’s been both an empowering and a challenging experience. In the last week, there’ve been moments where I’ve become hard on myself; in particular, I’ve become a bit down on my body. I don’t yet have the green light to return to my exercise routine, and I’ve been freely over-indulging in sweet treats. I’m not exactly sure what to wear in these early post-partum days and well, it just all feels a bit mushy – physically and emotionally. It got me thinking back another time in my life where I was hard on myself, and I want to share the story with you.

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Back in 2001, I was a single girl living in NYC. I was exhausted working 3 jobs, and had been dumped by my boyfriend right before the holidays. It was my quarter-life crisis moment and I started to turn against my body. While I was at a normal, healthy weight and had always been body-confident, I found I’d become fixated on my thighs. I stopped seeing myself in a beautiful way. I remember standing in front of the mirror in my undies and hearing my inner voice literally attacking my thighs, saying, You’re so round! Why can’t you be smaller? Why are you so big? I was even grabbing my outer thigh with my hand and wondering what my leg would look like if I had liposuction. It was as if the anxiety and uncertainty I was feeling about life was narrowing itself in on a body part. And that negative voice kept getting louder.

All of the sudden, I realized what I was doing to myself and it seemed crazy! Suddenly, the confident self-loving Dana that I’d known my whole life was fed up. I marched myself into the bathroom and stood in front of the mirror. I looked deep into my own eyes and started saying out loud, You’re okay. You’re beautiful. I love you. Stop this self-destructive nonsense. You love yourself WAY more than this!

It was a breakthrough moment. No longer would I allow myself to get stuck in that nasty repetitive loop of Negative Body Banter – the self-destructive mental chatter I’d been inflicting upon myself and my thighs. From that day forward, I began saying affirmations of self-love. I was talking to myself the way I’d talk to my best friend in crisis. Then, I started having more fun with the process, incorporating grand dramatic affirmations like, Thighs, you are terribly gorgeous. I love how juicy you are. Any man would be lucky to catch a even a glance of you!

You might think that sounds ridiculous, and it may have even felt that way at first. But it was a major awakening for me. It was self-care in its purest form and it’s grown into something far beyond the acute fix I needed that day and into such a beautiful relationship that I have with myself.

So, when I noticed that negative voice rise up again the other day, I went right back to what I know. I put myself back in front of the mirror, stopped ragging on my “post-natal puffiness” and refocused on what is feeling sexy and beautiful right now. My eyes, how they sparkle. My bust, so plump and glowy. My hair, damn, it’s magnificent! My belly, magical to have created the most amazing baby! And honestly, once I get into that self-lovin’ groove, I can go on and on about myself. But I won’t bore you with my list ;)

Instead, I challenge you to transform the negative messages you send yourself into more loving ones. Think of a body part you’ve been down on, or a perceived flaw you repeatedly fixate upon and counteract it with a positive, sexy self-love saying. Hating your arms? Flip the script and dig deep to find something sexy about them. Think your butt is fat? Retrain your brain to say something amazing about its seductive shape. We may not be able to banish the negative body banter from our lives completely, but can we can quickly nip it in the bud when it shows up. Life’s too short and sweet to waste time tearing ourselves down, right? Let’s support each other and take ownership in building our sexy self-confidence up instead!

With loads of love & affection,

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Mojo On My Mind

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Hey BP Babes!

As I’m writing to you, I’m bouncing my newborn in a baby lounger with my right foot and clutching a super-strong cup of coffee with my left hand, all while I contemplate the new phase my life has just entered.

Yes, I’ve now added “parent-of-two” to the long list of roles I play – entrepreneur, wife, author, mama, friend, daughter, do-er and dreamer. Charlie and I delivered a beautiful baby girl just two weeks ago, and boy, has it been an eventful two weeks. We introduced her to our toddler and began to help him adjust, we had a house full of visitors, I transitioned from sleeping all night to sleeping in short bursts, and of course, I went from being in the mix at BP Headquarters to being in full-charge at the Homefront HQ.  All at once, it’s been beautiful, hazy, precious and chaotic.

Pretty quickly, my body is returning to its pre-pregnancy state. I can see my feet again, and hey, let’s be honest, I can see my everything again! It feels good to get my body back, to start to feel like myself again, to be able to move and stretch without a watermelon being in the way. My hormones are finding equilibrium and the fortress of pregnancy pillows in between the hubby and I has officially been removed. Now, don’t get me wrong – it’s only been 2 weeks. This mama’s Mojo isn’t flying at full speed again. But, I do have Mojo on my mind. I can feel my inner spark reigniting and a driving desire firing up.  I may be packin’ a breast-pump in my purse, but on the flip side, I’m making sure to enjoy this relatively short window of having uber-gorgeous, amped-up “girls.” Unbelievably full nursing cleavage does wonders for my Mojo (and of course, provides my babe with good nutrition!). I’m making an effort to wear my summer wedges and Kissaholic Lip Stain and wash & fluff my ‘fro. My swagger is on its way back and I like it.

As you know, I believe that sex, sexiness and “Mojo’ are just as important as eating, drinking and working out. When I say “Mojo,” what I’m referring to is your feminine sexual spark. It’s your glow that comes from within, your lust for life, love and sex, and all the juicy possibilities that live therein.  Mojo is more than just confidence – it’s sexy self-confidence, your ability to know, embrace and love your body; to know what turns you on and satisfies you, and to then be able to communicate it. And yet, more often than not, so many of us are willing to set our “sexy” aside, dismiss its importance, or simply let it drift to the back burner of our busy lives – especially when we’re going through major life changes like a pregnancy or new-baby, a break-up or divorce, or just under the pressures of juggling a busy professional & home life.

Granted, it’s part of my job to keep my Mojo alive, which may be why I’m getting it moving so quickly after having a baby. But it’s not just because I have to, it’s because I want to. When I rub my still-swollen tummy with body butter, I’m reminded of and reconnected to my power as a woman.  When I take 5 to plumpify my pucker and swipe on some mascara, I feel like a more pulled-together version of me. I’m simply giving my inner vixen the permission to show up each day– even if I’m overtired from midnight feedings and the toddler/newborn juggling act. My little moments of sexy self-care are my daily confidence-boosting practice. And I truly believe that that confidence is my sexiest asset.

Cultivating a true, honest and unique sexy self-confidence makes you feel lit up inside. When you’re nurturing your Mojo, you’ll find your whole world begins to change in a sexier, more enchanted way. When you consciously love your own body, you’re way more enthusiastic to share it with your partner. And on top of all that, when you’re practicing self-love and the pursuit of satisfaction – all of your life’s other endeavors benefit. I know that when I’m paying my Mojo its due attention, I’m a better mama, a much better wife, and a happier, more creative woman, all-around.

So, no matter what’s going on in your life right now, I wanted to check in and remind you just how important, special, meaningful and magical your Mojo can be to you. Go swipe on some gloss and blow yourself a kiss. Or grab your lover and kiss them. Or put on your favorite skirt and flirt with a stranger on the sidewalk. I’ll be right out there with you. But right now? The baby’s down, so I’m gonna go take a nap ;)

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Gift Guide – For Lovers: Spice Up the Season

Hey Lovahs,

It’s time to spice up the season!

Before you start huffing and puffing about how there’s never any time for nooky while you’re traveling for the holidays, I’m here to tell you this X-Mas is going to be different. Why, you ask? Because you are going to make it so. I know that a week of sugary cookies and family dynamics is enough to dampen anyone’s libido, but you are going to plan a preemptive strike against libido loss. Let’s make a pact to have the sexiest, most satisfying holiday ever.  Are you with me?

Here’s what you’ll do:

Pack a special box of sexy stocking stuffers to gift your lover during your travels. Ask them to unwrap one prezzie each day, with the intention of inspiring a fresh & sexy experience for you to create together. (Be sure you’re gifting/opening in private – you’ll see why in a second!). As each day passes, your love will be dying to see what seductive surprise you have in store for them next. It’s literally like making an appointment for connection, for intimacy, for satisfaction and holiday stress-relief. In between these stolen sessions away from the family, don’t forget to do lots of PDA amongst them and sneak outside for a snowball fight. Here’s a few suggestions to get you going:

Day 1: Kick off the trip with the Turn Me On Vibrating Panties.  Let your lover watch you as you tie the silk ribbons around your hips and pass him the remote control. Head off to the welcome party and watch his temperature rise as the eggnog is served. (Make note to self: try to control your facial expressions!)

Day 2: Have you been good or bad this year? Let him decide with the Good Girl/Bad Girl Feather Spanker. This day’s session is all about role play. He gets to be Naughty Santa, and you, his frisky elf-ette. When you’re good, it’s all soft marabou feathers against your skin. When you’ve been bad, a game of slap-and-tickle. Oh, Santa!!

Day 3: On the 3rd day of Christmas, my true love gave to me… A bubble bath, sexy massage and orgasm that brought me to my knees. And when you gift The Romantic Rendevous LoveKit, that’s exactly what you’ll get.

Day 4: Unexpected delays at the airport? Don’t panic. Just check into the airport hotel and whip out your final gift, The Intimacy LoveKit.  It’s passion in a TSA-approved box and a surefire way to have an inspired quickie. Deluxe travel-sized massage oil and lubricant heat things up, while the disposable vibrating couples’ ring helps out in the satisfaction department. (Condoms are included if you’re not in the mood for baby-makin’.)

Take one idea, take all four. Just do something to create a sexy & memorable moment with your lover this year.

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Holiday Gift Guide #1 – Gift Yourself

Dana MyersIt’s December, and it’s my favorite month, for so many reasons. I bundle up in chunky scarves and drink hot cocoa like it’s nectar of the Gods. I smile & get teary-eyed listening to X-Mas music on the radio (I mean, Do they know it’s Christmastime at home?). I get to fire up the Chanukah candles and have a cozy Christmas all within the span of a few weeks. Kisses, wishes and champagne close out the month as we welcome the New Year, and all the new possibilities it holds.  Oh, and one other thing. December is my BIRTHDAY MONTH!!

Now, I know this is the season of giving to others, but I do a considerable amount of gifting myself around this time of year.  I can’t ignore the fact that’s it’s my birthday just because it’s X-Mas, right? I try not to go overboard, but I do treat myself to some prezzies to ceIebrate the end of one year and the onset of another in my life — older, wiser, happier, sexier and more fabulous.

So, in honor of my “gift yourself” tradition, this first gift guide is all about YOU. These are the little Booty Parlor treats I recommend to brighten your sexy self-confidence and help you shine during the season. And I know if you love ‘em, your best girlfriends will be just as thrilled when they unwrap theirs.

Here’s my Top 5 Gifts to Give Yourself (and your Best Friends~)

Naughty Bubbles Bubble Bath ($22) Sometimes the only place a girl can go to escape the hustle & bustle of the season is the bath tub. Do. Not. Disturb. Right? The black tuberose scent will blow your mind, and the luscious bubbles will float you away to a very happy place.

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Don’t Stop Massage Candle ($32): If you love candles, and you love massages, and you love the idea of experiencing the classic “hot wax” fantasy without any actual pain, this is the gift for you. The wax melts into a warm, nourishing massage oil that you can drizzle onto skin – lighting up your senses and giving you a foreplay story to write about in your diary.  

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The Official Booty Parlor Mojo Makeover: 4 Weeks to a Sexier You ($14.99)  I truly believe this is the gift that keeps on giving.  The Mojo Makeover experience will change the way you feel about yourself and infuse your daily life with a massive dose of SEXINESS! Give one to your bestie and support one another through the process. You’ll boost your sexy self-confidence and discover what’s uniquely sexy about each of YOU. It’s the perfect way to end the year and ring in the new one…

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Flirty Little Favorites ($36) Let the power-pampering begin! This trio of seductive beauty boosters is designed to trigger instant sexiness and inspire fearless flirtation. Sounds about right for all those upcoming holiday parties, yes?! All three products — the Perfume Oil, Pink Caviar Sugar Scrub, and Body Butter — are formulated with our proprietary pheromone blend to inspire body-to-body chemistry and get you all the attention. Plus, this one’s pretty in it’s giftable box, even your mother will love this as a gift (she wants to be sexy too, you know!)

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Kissaholic Aphrodisiac Plumping Lip Gloss ($16)  Position yourself uber-close to the mistletoe and get ready for a make out marathon. This super-glossy-but-never-sticky formula comes in 6 amazing shades, but I recommend trying Throb (sparkling red) or Tremble (sparking pink) since they’re so festive. The aphrodisiac blend is designed to inspire desire… but be careful, someone might catch you kissing S.C.!

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Ok, happy shopping (for yourself!) and let me know if you have any questions in the comments below!

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Get Your Mental Mojo Moving!

Dana MyersAs a new mama, I find myself gabbing with other moms about all sorts of “new mommy” topics — sleeping, breastfeeding, teething, sleeping (again), and of course, sex.  Or really, the lack of sex.  It seems that the curse of new mommyhood is a non-existent libido; as if the sexual spark that gets you pregnant in the first place burrows away into some deep, dark hibernation.

One mama said to me, “I just can’t even think about sex.”  Of course, therein lies the problem! Once you stop thinking about sex, it fades out of your life pretty quickly. Now, that’s not breaking news, but it is true. When you stop remembering what sex — and feeling sexy– can do for you, you lose the motivation to make it an integral part of your life.  Whether it’s the life-altering presence of a new baby, the stresses of a high-profile job, a to-do list that’s toppling over, or you’re just stuck in a rut with your lover, it can be challenging to keep the desire alive.  I totally get it. But I’m here to tell you that if you can get sex back on your brain, you’ll have it back in your bedroom in no time.  And I know you’ll feel happier and more satisfied when you do.  I know I do!  So, here’s a couple of quick ideas to get your mental mojo moving again…

  1. Look for visual and mental stimulation every day. There are seductive elements in so many places, you just need to keep your eyes open for them and embrace the opportunities they present. When I hit up the LA Farmer’s Market, the spectacularly phallic carrots and other natural wonders make me giggle and think naughty thoughts.  Staying on the subject of food, I ate a chocolate pot de creme yesterday, and the flavors & texture were so rich that I couldn’t help but feel sensual.  It might be the way a flower opens, or that you catch a scent that reminds you of your hottest one-night-stand. Whatever it is, make it a point to jot down the things you see, hear, smell and feel that please you and make you a little lusty.  Use a mini notebook or an App on your phone and then, a couple times a week, check back and see what you wrote. It’ll remind you of what revs your motor…
  2. Bring out the fantasy lingerie. When I say “fantasy,” I really mean costumes. Naughty nurse. Jail bird. Fluffy bunny. Sexy Mobster. Dressing up in a sexy costume is an instant libido booster.  For most, it means instant sex-on-the-brain because, if it’s not Halloween, why else would you be wearing it except for a sexy bedroom session? It makes you feel a little silly and naughty all at once, and prompts you to think, “Ok, what am I going to do now that I’m in this thing?” Not only will you look foxy, but it’ll be easy to lose yourself in a new role, taking you out of the boredom/stresses of your daily life. It’s an experiment in newness and it will bring on the creativity and a sense of play.
  3. Stock a seductive book. Whether it’s a oversized book of provocative photography or an anthology of sexy stories, make room for a little extra stimulation that’ll move your mind onto something sexier than baby bottles or your grocery list.  At the end of a long day, it might seem easier to thumb through US Weekly, but seeing what Lindsey wore to court won’t deliver you the motivation you need to get your mojo moving.  Reading a short story — be it romantic or kinky — will ignite your imagination and spark up your desire.  Then, it’s up to you to act on the inspiration!

Whether you’re a new mommy, a high-powered business woman, or you’ve just grown complacent in your relationship, I want you to remember how important “sexy” is in your life.  Use these little tips to bring sexy back to your brain, and work to keep it alive.  Because when you’re living as the sexiest, most fabulous and vibrant version of you — with confidence, self-love, and an active pursuit of the sexy satisfaction you deserve — all of your life’s other endeavors will benefit! 

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