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A Valentine's Day Love Story - Steak, Sex & Intimacy - By Booty Parlor Founder Dana B. Myers

Valentine’s Day is here and it’s no surprise… it’s one of my favorite holidays.

Now, it wasn’t always this way. I used to HATE Valentine’s Day and write it off as a silly, “Hallmark” holiday.I suppose that was before I met my husband Charlie. Now, it feels like a very intimate holiday. A time to really reflect upon love – not just romantic love, but all the kinds of love in my life.

But I’m not going to talk about the intense, soul-drenching love I have for my two kids, or my mom, or my treasured girlfriends, or even myself.

Instead, I’m going to tell you about my love for steak.

What’s steak got to do with Valentine’s Day? I’ll tell you. It goes back to the first V-Day I ever had with Charlie. We’d been dating for a few months. We were in love and I already knew we’d be together forever — it was thrilling. I walked into his apartment and the whole place smelled of sizzling steak. Through a slightly smoky haze, I saw him buzzing around the kitchen.

A sexy British man making me sizzling steak. OMG. OH YES. It was a revelation.

And when we sat down, each bite satisfied a very deep craving – for lust and sex and love. For a man who could feed me, and in doing so, feed my desire for him.

So yeah – I discovered that the way to my heart (and my libido) is a beautifully prepared piece of meat. It’s true. It’s a little weird. But it makes me feel sexual, sensual, lusty and libidinous. Maybe I was a cave woman in another life?

The truth is, I didn’t know this about myself until Charlie made that steak.  And now, it’s a running joke in our house. A chicken roasting in the oven? Guaranteed to get me feeling frisky. A leg of lamb on a spit? Don’t even get me started. And that’s before he starts to carve it. His cooking brings out the animal in me. He likes that “weird” part of me, and in return, it turns him on.

What’s the point of me telling you this story?

Well… on a holiday where there’s such a high value placed on dinners, diamonds and expensive gifts, I suggest you focus instead on the unique intimate connections you share with your spouse. The quirky, naughty and nuanced curves of your desires and turn-ons.  The “thing” that only the two of you share.  The thing that turns you into an animal.

Talk about it, and then go there again. There’s a reason you were drawn together, so remember it. And if you feel it’s faded too far out of reach, never fear. Intimacy loves to be rekindled – it practically begs for it. Use Valentine’s Day as your excuse to spark it up again.

This year, I’ll be taking mine medium-rare!

XOXO,

DanaDana B. Myers

PS – If you’re in NYC and you’re nterested in rediscovering your enthusiasm for sex, love and lust, then join me at the Mommy Mojo Makeover workshop, starting February 27th! www.mommymojomakeover.eventbrite.com

Mojo On My Mind

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Hey BP Babes!

As I’m writing to you, I’m bouncing my newborn in a baby lounger with my right foot and clutching a super-strong cup of coffee with my left hand, all while I contemplate the new phase my life has just entered.

Yes, I’ve now added “parent-of-two” to the long list of roles I play – entrepreneur, wife, author, mama, friend, daughter, do-er and dreamer. Charlie and I delivered a beautiful baby girl just two weeks ago, and boy, has it been an eventful two weeks. We introduced her to our toddler and began to help him adjust, we had a house full of visitors, I transitioned from sleeping all night to sleeping in short bursts, and of course, I went from being in the mix at BP Headquarters to being in full-charge at the Homefront HQ.  All at once, it’s been beautiful, hazy, precious and chaotic.

Pretty quickly, my body is returning to its pre-pregnancy state. I can see my feet again, and hey, let’s be honest, I can see my everything again! It feels good to get my body back, to start to feel like myself again, to be able to move and stretch without a watermelon being in the way. My hormones are finding equilibrium and the fortress of pregnancy pillows in between the hubby and I has officially been removed. Now, don’t get me wrong – it’s only been 2 weeks. This mama’s Mojo isn’t flying at full speed again. But, I do have Mojo on my mind. I can feel my inner spark reigniting and a driving desire firing up.  I may be packin’ a breast-pump in my purse, but on the flip side, I’m making sure to enjoy this relatively short window of having uber-gorgeous, amped-up “girls.” Unbelievably full nursing cleavage does wonders for my Mojo (and of course, provides my babe with good nutrition!). I’m making an effort to wear my summer wedges and Kissaholic Lip Stain and wash & fluff my ‘fro. My swagger is on its way back and I like it.

As you know, I believe that sex, sexiness and “Mojo’ are just as important as eating, drinking and working out. When I say “Mojo,” what I’m referring to is your feminine sexual spark. It’s your glow that comes from within, your lust for life, love and sex, and all the juicy possibilities that live therein.  Mojo is more than just confidence – it’s sexy self-confidence, your ability to know, embrace and love your body; to know what turns you on and satisfies you, and to then be able to communicate it. And yet, more often than not, so many of us are willing to set our “sexy” aside, dismiss its importance, or simply let it drift to the back burner of our busy lives – especially when we’re going through major life changes like a pregnancy or new-baby, a break-up or divorce, or just under the pressures of juggling a busy professional & home life.

Granted, it’s part of my job to keep my Mojo alive, which may be why I’m getting it moving so quickly after having a baby. But it’s not just because I have to, it’s because I want to. When I rub my still-swollen tummy with body butter, I’m reminded of and reconnected to my power as a woman.  When I take 5 to plumpify my pucker and swipe on some mascara, I feel like a more pulled-together version of me. I’m simply giving my inner vixen the permission to show up each day– even if I’m overtired from midnight feedings and the toddler/newborn juggling act. My little moments of sexy self-care are my daily confidence-boosting practice. And I truly believe that that confidence is my sexiest asset.

Cultivating a true, honest and unique sexy self-confidence makes you feel lit up inside. When you’re nurturing your Mojo, you’ll find your whole world begins to change in a sexier, more enchanted way. When you consciously love your own body, you’re way more enthusiastic to share it with your partner. And on top of all that, when you’re practicing self-love and the pursuit of satisfaction – all of your life’s other endeavors benefit. I know that when I’m paying my Mojo its due attention, I’m a better mama, a much better wife, and a happier, more creative woman, all-around.

So, no matter what’s going on in your life right now, I wanted to check in and remind you just how important, special, meaningful and magical your Mojo can be to you. Go swipe on some gloss and blow yourself a kiss. Or grab your lover and kiss them. Or put on your favorite skirt and flirt with a stranger on the sidewalk. I’ll be right out there with you. But right now? The baby’s down, so I’m gonna go take a nap ;)

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