Bind me, gag me, make me your slave – this book is not for the faint of heart. Jay Wiseman’s written the definitive & no-nonsense guide to the pleasure in pain.

He lays down ground rules for safe play, like how to know when “stop” means "stop" and not “harder” and what to do should a medical, um, “mishap” occur.

The chapter “Giving and Receiving Erotic Pain” is perfect for the uninitiated, while “Flagellation” or “Humiliation” are better once you’ve had a chance to get comfortable with the basics of whips and chains.